What’s your purpose? Why are you here? What are you doing to make the world better?

Do you know who you are?

I used to be able to answer this question. I am a teacher. I am a Christian. I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am a friend. I am black. I am single. I am happy.

However, as life continues on, I started to question this…. My answers were based on what others perceived me to be or what was expected to be my response. Not to say that these things aren’t fact because they are; however, they no longer held the same value to me. Yes, I was a teacher but I got to a point that I HATED teaching. Yes, I was a Christian but I had moments when I was high off of Jesus and low moments when I questioned everything. Yes, I am a daughter, a sister, and a friend but due to my own selfish desires I ceased to be available and became burdened by the needs in maintaining these relationships. Yes, I am black until the day I die. However, it’s tough some days knowing others have more privilege than you. Plus, having to fight ten times harder for something that I rightfully earned to then find out that the criteria for the finish line has changed. It’s just too much! Yes, I am single. Lol! So much could be said here..lol! Single by choice, single by force…toe-may-toe (tomato), toe-mah-toe (tomato).

I am happy…this is very subjective and depends on the day.

I’ve changed…

I’ve discovered that these labels didn’t add to my happiness. In fact, they boxed me in.

Life is complex and deeper than these labels and I was seeking something more. That more was found through snapping out of the endless spell of  many sleepless nights and long monotonous days. I discovered that I wanted a life filled with substance and not mindless obligation.

I am seeking connection, love, joy, understanding, and intentionality.

In looking at life through this lens, I have created my own guide for myself. I can now see what adds value to my life and I’m okay with letting go of anything that doesn’t. I’ve learned that I may not be able to control many things in my life but I can control how I accept and respond to the various situations in my life. This feels so liberating!!! Everyone is seeking something…I’m just glad I was able to gain some clarity for myself and the direction I want for my life. I hope you will be inspired to reevaluate your life and create your own path. Be patient in knowing that it will be accomplished.

In the mean time….

I choose to live life intentionally, as I embrace being a Brilliantly Made Woman.